Submitted 9 Nov 2003
I have had the same problems all my life. I crossed the line and was locked up for seven years because of it. If you deny your issues it only makes you dangerous. If you continue to suppress your feeling you will offend.
Submitted 5 Oct 2003
It's very hard question to answer, Flik. I'm not sure I would like to be in your situation, but I will think of a way to help - somehow.
I can't directly help, however I can give you things to think about an answer for yourself. The first thing is, Why are you wanting to stop seeing him if you are willing to put your life on the line for this kid?
Second, you state that you end up crying alot. Is this because of what is happing in his life? If it is, are you able to help ease this, or stop it altogether? Maybe you need to do something (if you are able to) to prevent it from happening.
Maybe just maybe you are in a tight spot, (That's the understatement of the year! :)p ) But maybe you should try and see what happens when you do leave him alone, maybe this will help him. If it seems to cause worse things to happen in his life then you may need to find out what you can do to help his life.
I know this is so vague and probably will not help - this is because of the lack of information. However, there is this site if you can post more information.
(hope to see you on the board sometime)
-Master20, age 20
Submitted 6 Oct 2003
I don't know what to tell you. Can you not enjoy this boy in other ways besides sexual desires? I know what you're going through, I'm feeling very depressed myself lately even though I don't have a specific boy that I'm attracted to, I see boys all the time that I have to like bite my lip and ignore so as not to seem excited. Keep in contact with this boy, don't hurt him just because the law prevents you from being as close as you would like to be with him, then society wins. If you absolutely feel like you cannot control your desires, maybe you should talk about them with him, he may not feel the same way and then it will make things a bit easier to manage. If he does feel the same way, maybe you could talk about what you would like to do with eachother, I believe talking is still legal, but I could be wrong.
- Howie, 21
Age Taboo staff
Submitted 7 Oct 2003
I think it's safe to say the he will not feel the same way. For a boy, you touching him and him being touched are two very different things. Personally, I would advise all to never let this get confused in your mind with a "romance"... it's very different.
I also advise against mentioning your interest in sex with him, to him. I have a few times in the past revealed to a friend that I got into a minor sexual situation once (same age, thats not too illegal) and found it very pleasing to give pleasure to a friend. And just see where he goes with it. But not discuss HIM in the deal. Not proposition him. Also, him going after you puts a slightly different dynamic on it. I feel it's much better for his well being that way.
I do agree that talk is critical. Well, in all sexual situations. Even in the hetro world, I feel that seduction is unethical. Let him know how your heart aches. How you hope that someday your son, the light of your life, will be exactly like him. That you only wish that you could be around him for years and years. That he is the perfect kid. There's lots to say without getting sexual. To him, love and sex are quite different.
- Cody, 16